Just the other day I was talking to a male friend of mine and we were chatting via text about how busy my life has gotten since we met about 5years ago. Now, me and this male friend did date briefly back then and the reason why we are not together has nothing to do with me not making time for our relationship. Check out our conversation.
Him: Hey my lady. How are you?
Me: Hey sweetie! I’m doing good… how are you?
Me: Are you working today?
Me: (after about a 30 min delay) Sorry for my delay. I was driving to my part-time job
Him: Hard work all the time
Me: Yes…I need to change that
Him: You need a partner
Me: I know, right..(I‘m thinking, yes it has been awhile)
Him: Better get on it
Me: I’ve been told I don’t have time
Him: You don’t right now (see, this is where you are wrong…I think)
Me: Well…not true. I can make time-and I will it’s not too hard
Him: You have to make time early or he won’t feel like you will
Me: True. I just need someone who is understanding and know that it will not be like this always
Him: Yea, hopefully so you won’t be that busy later
Me: I won’t. The right person will benefit from my hard work in the long run
As we ended our conversation, it made me think. Is it really hard for me to make time for that special someone or does it just seem complicated to someone one who is looking at my life from the outside in? Ok, this is where I’m going to tell you a little about me and maybe you can see why my male friend came to his conclusion.
I work a full-time job, a part-time job (been doing this since ‘07) some days I work 13hours and go to school (just started in ’09) and depending on the classes I take, I may be full-time or part-time any given quarter. So, yes I am a busy bee, but for the right person I will make time, even in the early stages of dating to see if he is worth more of my time. SN: I make time for friends, family and travel several times a year
I am willing to put my all into a relationship, but at the same time I have to keep pushing on to better myself, so that I can bring more to a relationship and be his equal. If a man can’t understand that and not will to date me…it’s his loss.
Let me make this clear…and I am screaming this….I want to date, heck I even want to be in a one-on-one relationship, but do I have to clear a spot on my plate to make this happen? Who says I can’t have all of this and a mate?
I’m just saying….